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Ms. Vicki

Ms. Vicki, a native of Dallas, has been the ‘Dear Abby’ for the military community since her column began in 2005. A licensed therapist and licensed clinical social worker, Ms. Vicki holds a Master of Science in social work and a Master of Arts in clinical psychology. Her column has appeared in the Washington (D.C.) Times and in the Heidelberg (Germany) Post Herald. She has been featured on CNN, CBS, ABC and NBC.

Ms. Vicki has retired from writing new columns for Military.com. Although Ms. Vicki is no longer offering new advice on Military.com, you can still email military benefits questions to our Questions and Benefits team. Need military spouse career help? Email our Dear Career writers.

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    Can You Spot the Scammer?
    Ms. Vicki
    Military romance scams are used to con women out of thousands. Discover the warning signs before being a victim to these profes...
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    We Deserted: What Now?
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    A soldier and his wife both seek advice after he deserts his unit and they fear getting caught.
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    Dad Is Deployed; Mom Is Having an Affair
    Ms. Vicki
    A college student needs advice after going home to find mom making out with another man while dad is deployed.
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    When an Online Boyfriend Is a Scam Artist
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    A reader met an "officer" online and became friendly. Now he wants her to send thousands of dollars so he can "retire."
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    Top 5 Reasons Women Cheat
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    In response to an earlier column, "Five Ways You Help Him Cheat," here are reasons some readers provided for their own cheating.